Emotional maturity, empathy and compassion are not meant to be done in order to appease someone else; they are meant to be done because they are their own reward. If you find yourself envying those who don't display these traits, it is a sign you are trying to force the traits to an unsustainable degree. An artificial focus on "emotional maturity, empathy and compassion" interferes with the ability to be authentic, expressive and spontaneous. Consider that your current way of being may be coming off as a bit...forced?